Is my wife a WAW or is this a MLC? thx2brs

[Walking]

AYK – I’ve been reading along and can see you are making good progress in your state of mind. You are letting things go and leaving her alone, concentrating on you and your time with the children and identifying things about yourself that you need to work on so you can have a more emotionally mature and healthy life as you go forward.

I would really recommend you read up on Co-Dependency. Symptoms of codependence include controlling behavior, avoidance of feelings, problems with intimacy and excessive caretaking.
A tendency to place the needs and wants of others first and to the exclusion of acknowledging your own
• continued investment of self-esteem in the ability to control both oneself and others
• anxiety and boundary distortions relating to intimacy and separation
• difficulty expressing feelings
• excessive worry how others may respond to one's feelings
• undue fear of being hurt and/or rejected by others
• self-esteem dependent on approval by others

Guys I've spoiled this woman since I've met her. She gave me an STD, loved her, i put up with her mother, loved her, I loved her when she weighed over 200lbs and I loved her when she weighed 130 lbs. This is so frustrating, because no I wasn't perfect, but I didn't have an affair, I never won a fight, cause I never put up one. I paid for everything. This really is so not rite. Hell she loves Ozzy, I got her back stage to meet Ozzy. I know it's all about her, but she really isn't being fair.

It’s not about her being fair or not. You made the decisions to treat your wife the way you have. You made the decision to live through the STD episode, the overweight episode etc etc … you made those decisions about the way you behaved. That’s over to you, not your wife.

As you mature as a man you might reflect on these things and ask yourself was it “fair” of you to enable her behaviour that led to you getting an STD? That’s not necessarily healthy my friend.

I love her more than she does herself and I love my family more than I do myself.

So right here we have a problem. This is a co-dependency redlight. If you love your wife and your family more than you love yourself … you got some work to do. You need to be a healthy man before you can provide love and devotion to your family. How you love and respect yourself is directly related to how you love and respect others. The more you love and respect yourself, the more able you are to truly love and support your wife and family. You need to get right with you first.

I texted and called D 12 times this wkend, nothing back.

Texting or calling your daughter 12 times in 2 days is compulsive at best and harassment at worst. Call her once. She’ll call you back when she’s ready.