can pursuing a WAS be a 180?

[avermont]

Pearl, maybe you should say that to me 8 times over, and whack me with a 2x4 each time. Maybe that will help get it through my head.

Thanks for all the input. I'm struggling and thinking and feeling.

Don't offer him comfort cause then he can stay comfortably in affair. Give him reason to think he might lose me (if he cares! he says he is totally done with our R) Have him uncertain if he has made the right choice or not.

FWIW, went to a party last night with all the gang. It was tough because had to accept all the commiseration, go over the story, etc...but everyone said I looked fabulous. I guess 30 pounds wasn't too much to lose. The gang invited me instead of the X; they are not pleased with how this sitch has gone down.