BIM, I was SO hoping you would not be offended and would reply. My heart truly goes out to you.
While I can more or less relate to how he is, you do not deserve the treatment you have received. I'll try to make some time to read your entire thread and take note on everything you've tried so far. You've been living through this for seven years and you've tried almost everything I could think of off the top of my head.
I'll try come up with some new suggestions for you. Fair warning: I tend to agree with Gucci, Puppy Dog Tails and RobX's philosophies, so they may not exactly be DB principles.
I told you before that this man needs a crisis to shake his head out of the sand and appreciate the woman he has. I do have one idea off the top of my head, but it's very dirty, so I'll hold off on that.
Keep strong.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT