ha ha! thanks for the advice, P17! Well, maybe I should take them but do I let him know or is that ruining the mystery? And if I don't tell him, then how will he know?

p.s. someone actually reads my ramblings? :-)

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004