I'm taking a poll......

[sage]

Married 7 years at time of bomb-droppage (11/1/02) -- I had started suspecting h of an EA 5 months before that (5/1/02).

Never separated (knock wood).

Found DB'ing ~1 month after bomb but had actually been implementing some of the techniques w/o knowing it.

Saw some teeny babysteps within a month. Noticed bigger babysteps over next 4 months. Found a direct correlation between how WELL I was able to control MY STUFF and the babysteps. Had my first real unconscious feeling of "I think we'll be OK" about 8 months into DB'ing.

One thing to note is that it's truly not a straight shot...you'll have the proverbial rollercoaster ride for sure...some of that WILL be in your control and some of it likely won't be (but that's OK). Backslides at the 1 month mark, 4.5 month mark and 6 month mark (I'm talking big backslides on my part) were tough for me to handle but the recovery period got shorter and shorter the further into DB'ing I was.

Sage