At a loss about my sitch - Need advice and support

[sportsfan]

He called me. I told him that I wanted to give him some great news about my upcoming surgery. He sounds VERY down. As if he is depressed. I remained upbeat in our conversation, which lasted only a few minutes and I was the one who ended it.

I casually asked him about (I know - I couldn't help it) his car. He said they were processing the registration without my name and he didn't want to stop the process so just let it go through. He was at least honest about not putting my name on it. He did mention that it had my address on it. I did not tell him that I looked it up.

He just said he is tired. I told him I could get someone else or I could try to clean out the gutters, but he said he would still do it tomorrow. I told him I missed getting texts from him in the a.m. He said it was only this morning that he didn't. I let that go. I get the feeling something is up, but I don't know what. He internalizes everything and he is working on not doing that anymore. I guess I'll wait and see what happens tomorrow. I think he is nursing a broken heart regarding OW#2.

DB'ing is so hard. Does anyone have any tips on how to cope? Thanks in advance and I appreciate all the responses. I really do.