Update on update: I completely forgot about Friday night! I shouldn't have... H and I were home pretty much alone, as D14 was asleep upstairs exhausted...We were sitting at the table, drinking wine, listening to music and playing on the computer. It was like H was back. We were flirting and having fun, things were light and comfortable. D14 came downstairs and hung out with us. Then H says something snarky to me...so I went upstairs and didn't engage.
Later he comes upstairs and I'm acting as if he didn't say anything snarky...he's surprised and says he "hates that I act like nothing is wrong"... Now this was a 180 for me-, so H's response surprised me but I said I was OK and he seemed to forget about his comment too.
The next day was OK..we had the spat at lunch..but the afternoon improved and on the way home it was pretty comfortable.
Today, H was kind of bummed he'd wasted all morning waiting for a workman to come and fix something in the townhome. Usually this devolves into a rant about how I don't respect his job(self-employed)..b/c he's always the one staying home for things even though I always offer... No rant today but he was a little testy...can't tell if we're making real headway or if its a sane moment or lull within the craziness.
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.