I would agree w/the patience as well, but I would say that I think he is lost and at a loss as to what to do.
True, he SHOULD know, but he doesn't trust his instincts to do the right thing. He is really, really confused and the last time he trusted his instincts he had an A and almost threw away his entire family.
So, while he SHOULD know what to do, I firmly believe he doesn't right now and may not "get it" for a while...hence the "patience" thing.
