My story begins with a twist...

[Lucky11too]

I'm still convinced that she is -- or was -- suffering from depression for much of the last year, and she internalizes stuff like nobody's business. One of my 180's has been to be more assertive about not letting her bottle up her feelings with "I'm fine" and "Never mind".

Yes, I've done a lot of research on depression. Women internalize their pain while men externalize it and play the victim. This makes women more quiet or emotional as they punish themself, while men use anger and blame to take it out on those they love. Neither is easy though for the spouse. Luckily for you, women are more likely to get help though too. H unfortunately has been in full blown depressed mood & I'm getting crushed in the middle. Depression sucks...