Ha! I will never know about that. He and everyone claim he is not, but they are both crazy and I don't know for sure. I only care if she is around my kids.Honestly though, after everything that has happened, that would not make me want him back. Too much polluted water under the bridge.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
That would be hard to get over I know. And he does have much work to do on himself. Until he realizes that, I don't see much change in his chances to reconcile with you.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Okay, just sharing this fyi. I am truly perplexed by ex's behavior. Open to opinions on this. Well, I'm always open to opinions.
As you know, he has been acting nutty and pursuing me like a stalker. Constant stuff, txts, calls, emails, all in my biz at S's games, etc. Asking me to go out on dates. I am not interested in anything more than parenting and maybe friendship (somewhat, I really don't like him) with him and have repeatedly told him so.
The kids were spending the night with my mom Fri. and son told ex and ex asked me several times to go out with him. I declined.
He has repeatedly told me that he was done with the little girl (for weeks he's been insisting). So, I figured he was lonely and that's why he was bugging me so much.
Fast forward to today. Have learned (through a friend) that he has set up a new ms page (he shut down his old one when he supposedly broke up w her). Has pics of the kids, my D WITH her (og, which I do NOT like at all) and a nasty skanky pic of her in what looks like just a bra with the title The Mrs.
Okay, he can do whatever he wants, but my thing is this. Why on earth is he still stalking me trying to make my life miserable if he is still w her and they are close enough to post pics of her and my d, etc. This is crazy stuff. I just can't wrap my head around it. If he is with her then leave me ALONE.
I know OP's are not unusual at all, but most do not PURSUE their ex while with the OP, right? What the heck is up?
I feel like I have to walk on eggshells constantly and hide my personal life b/c of how crazy he is... but yet he puts all this out for the world to see. What is up with that?
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Okay, so he took the kids to practice today because I was sick with a horrible headache.
So, I know that he hasn't been paying his car pmts forever b/c they called and bugged me at first and the repo man even showed up at my house looking for him. I informed him that he does not live here and we are divorced. They said they wouldn't bother me anymore.
He supposedly set up with the finance company to give the car back, but supposedly they hadn't picked it up yet.
He pulls up with them here tonight and they are getting out of the car and lo and behold what pulls up, a tow truck!! Appearantly they have been watching MY apartment looking for him. So, in front of my kids AND my neighbors he is talking to the repo man. OMG! We took the stuff and went in and they agreed to follow him back to his place and take the car.
That was so ridiculous and embarassing AND in front of the kids. I am speechless...
I explain this to the kids how???
Last edited by SoCo; 11/16/0912:37 AM.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
SoCo, Uggh. So once again you get sucked into the drama! How awful. Did you explain anything to your kids? I wouldn't know what to say, either. It really is too bad they were laying in wait at your apartment for sure.
Yeah, my D just let it go, but my S9 asked me what it was about. So I just explained to him that like we talked about last time (when the guy knocked on my door), that his dad has been irresponsible and not paying his car payments and when you don't pay for things then they take them back. My S already knows his dad has been not taking care of business b/c he has commented on him not keeping a job or a place and other stuff like that. He has commented how I have had the same job for so long and take good care of them. He notices stuff like that.
That's why it makes it laughable to me that ex tries to threaten me with the fact that one day S will be able to choose who he lives with. He has no clue what his son thinks.
And yeah, the freaking drama seems to follow me no matter how much I try to get away from it. My apartments are so nice and quiet and the only drama I ever see is mine. Ugggg. I really am an upstanding citizen!! I just can't escape my ex.
Last edited by SoCo; 11/16/0902:40 PM.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Ah. Got txt at lunch from him. Says he may have to work late so he might not make it to S's playoff game tonight. I txt back, that's fine. He sends back, no it's not. I send back, We will survive and be fine. Too freaking funny... it's like he wants me to beg him to come or something. I'm sure "work" tonight is the og.
Poor him had to cancel going to church with her yesterday to take care of the kids when I was sick. LOL It is the funniest situation with her ever. She sends a message that says God will take care of the bad people in life... I guess the bad people are me.... LMAO... Uh yeah, never mind that you, barely adult, had an affair with your married boss with two kids, harassed his wife to the point of having to block emails and phone numbers, post half naked pics on ms..etc,etc. Oh yeah, you guys are the good people.... God may strike me down for getting sick.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
So, ex was txt me about the kids last night and it turned into a debate. I hate that. I just am to the point where I cannot listen to his stuff (95% of which I know is lies) and not say anything about it. It just makes me feel so irritated and disrespected that he's still trying to play me after we are divorced.
We were talking about kid issues, because he is letting them do stuff that he knows I don't approve of and we had always agreed on while they are there. Then out of the blue I asked him something, and he answers with "Well, are you going to let me come home?" I asked what that had to do with the issue at hand. It's like he's doing things with the kids to get to me. He probably is.
I want to be peaceful and have no drama and not engage with him. BUT, it just pisses me off for him to continue to constantly bug me with I want to come home, I love you, what can I do, etc. etc. When he still has the little girl. I just feel like lying to me (and her) for that matter like that and trying to use us is disrespectful to both. He will not admit that he is with her, and adamantly denies it. It is just too freaking funny b/c he doesn't know that I have seen his ms where he has all his skanky pics of her, pics of her and D, and calls her "the Mrs." etc. I have almost bitten my tongue in half to listen to his b/s when I know all of this stuff.
ANYWAY, it has to stop cuz it just makes me angry. He needs to leave me alone. I don't know what kind of sick little game he's playing, but I don't want to be part of it. If she's fine with that behavior then whatever.
I'm thinking about just having a really firm talk with him and telling him that I know what is up, I am tired of it, and I don't want to hear anymore of his nonsense. I'm sure that will piss him off to no end, but I am sick of it.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
