"Reinventing your Life" is another great CBT book, with fun exercises. It talks about lifetraps, various ways in which people get stuck.
But, don't forget the ADD stuff. Did you ever try meds for it? ADD tends to get worse with age... http://www.estronaut.com/a/women_attention_deficit.htm And, if you haven't read it: You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?! A Self-Help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder
