I know I am sounding like a two year old whining here--but but but-to change the dynamic--to try something different--different would be VULNERABLE, OPEN, ADMITTING FEELINGS. I have been strong, self-confident, independent all this time...so what to change besides being open, willing to be vulnerable?
Puppy, are you saying that he will feel CRISIS re: geez do I give up this affair because I risk losing avermont all together? Gee, she seems happy and content without me...wow, maybe I should dump the affair and see if I can work it out? And if I keep nice little notes and touching in coming, he will happily rest in the affair, smugly knowing he can waltz back in whenever?
The affair started in May. Out in the open in August; moved in together mid September. So they are going on 7 months of thrills and chills.
I only imagine them intwining deeper and deeper until it becomes too hard for him to extricate himself (and hurt the gf now, too) and to ask for any reconciliation. He is definitley a conflict avoider. Well, we both were for all this time.
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
