Start of the end..

[iwantittowork]

Hi DF, thanks for the comments.

CS formula for us looks to be set in stone, and figure around 609 per week right now, which is just galling enough to begin with. She doesn't have to change a thing about her part time job, lifestyle, housing, trips to the spa, hair salon, etc, ad nasueum, with that kind of figure.

And now even my attorney is saying there's going to be alimony too, and that is not figured out yet. Even though we have a short term marriage, since our pay is so 'disparate' to bad for me, she gets some support for at least several years to come.

From my perspective, the money is not so cut and dried, but it looks like the state will side with my STBXW.

We put out a ton of money 1.5 years ago, and now have some additional mortgages on some 'investment' property that basically has me flat out even on income/cashflow monthly.

The temp support order is forcing me to pay for the cost of STBXW's full housing/utilities during the duration of the D, but I have had to add 1500-1700 month so I have a place to stay for myself and d8 when I have her.

So, with that, I'll be underwater 1500+ a month, if I try to float the 'investments' that we put in my name only, and now STBXW is claiming absolutely no involvement in. My attorney's advice is to stop paying on them, as they have seen the court do that to other people in the past, force them into foreclosure on properties like that so childrens accustomed lifestyle is not impacted.

So, I will loose my inheritance money that we used to provide for those investments, and likely the real property itself, credit ruined, or forced to bankruptcy in a few months, while STBXW absorbs absolutely no financial impact, because she has never brought anything to our relationship financially since I started dating her.

The 609 per week in just CS is almost 2 times the gross pay my STBXW has ever earned on her own in her lifetime, let alone any spousal 'support' they decide to tack on top of that. She's gotten the new car, new boobs, gets to live in our marital home for free now during the duration of D, and heck the CS I will be paying could continue that with no problem for years.

I am just trying to come to grips with how anything at all positive financially I can dig out of this complete raping by the state and my STBXW.

I guess I can take some kind of perverse satisfaction that for all the talk of 'freedom' and needing 'space' and to be on her own, she can't do it without my financial support.