I was playing games (bluffing) with H tonight, it backfired and he pretty much told me it's fine if I date. He doesn't seem to give a rat's behind.
yep.
first things first. you start dating or you plan on dating you never tell anyone. never admit to an affair. if you are questioned about it by your spouse you always admit to one level less than what is really going on. Thats what puppy is going to tell them you are doing when they start posting on this site. If you plan on using the jealousy button, you better do it right.
Remember, YOU ARE JUST FRIENDS. You are only supporting them and talking with them about their relationship issues. You are an ear and a friend.
Second thing, you need to get your emotions in check. some people take anti-depressants. some people start exercising. some people go to counselling. do what works for you. however, until you get out of panic mode and can begin to relax about the situation your emotions will control your thinking and you will not function nor act effectively.
I have some very strong opinions on what to do when someone you love dumps you, but for now i think its best to go read a few threads to get your bearings before I suggest anything. Take a look at redsoxfan and sumguy27 for starters.
