I think it's all up to you whether it changes anything. It's a problem for H. Don't try to solve it for him.
Agreed. This is a case of his actions starting to have repercussions. Let him deal with it.
Also, if you do get involved he will probably accuse you of making them do it...
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I wasn't planning on getting involved with him and her, I'm just unsure of how to handle me and her. She says if we fix this, she'll be civil, but she'll never feel the same about him.
I wasn't planning on getting involved with him and her, I'm just unsure of how to handle me and her. She says if we fix this, she'll be civil, but she'll never feel the same about him.
Remind her that this is your marriage and your husband, and the ultimate disposition of both is up to you.
I don't discuss the salient details of my relationship with my parents much any more, even with things seeming to be on the mend. All they need to know is when things look like they're going to work out.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
It's up to your mom how she feels about him. She's going to protect her daughter. Don't mess with Momma Bear! She says she'll be civil, that's the best you can hope for. If things work long term, she'll probably accept it more and more, over time.
Hi SD. I finally read your whole thread. Wow, you are so much stronger than I am/was!! I need to take lessons.
Me: 33 / H: 36 M: 10y / T: 14y 3 kids BD: 2/22/14 Live in separation 3/8/14 H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14 H moved out 4/25/14 2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month
I had a nice talk with my mom. You're right, VH. She is being a momma bear. Rightfully so, too. He's messing with her D and her GKs. Not cool. lol
PiGA, it's not that I am strong, I just have to pick myself up and carry on because I have little people counting on me.
I'm going on a trip this weekend. I asked H if he minded if I took the kids, because I didn't want him thinking I was snatching another weekend from him. He said yes, but hours later he texted me and asked if he could know why I was going. I ignored it. He has texted me about 4 times today asking if he could know why I am going. My response was...would you like them for the weekend because I can leave them home.
No response, but I can imagine what he is thinking. lol
I'm going on a trip this weekend. I asked H if he minded if I took the kids, because I didn't want him thinking I was snatching another weekend from him. He said yes, but hours later he texted me and asked if he could know why I was going. I ignored it. He has texted me about 4 times today asking if he could know why I am going. My response was...would you like them for the weekend because I can leave them home.
No response, but I can imagine what he is thinking. lol
That is good divorce busting. That is interesting that he really wants to know.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
