Well. Sometimes people are just alcoholics. Sometimes people abuse alcohol because of other issues/illness/personality disorders. So the alcoholism can be a symptom of what's really wrong with them.
Your husband hasn't changed without alcohol. This last post really hits on the self-centeredness and really narcissistic traits he has. I would read up on that. This making every single thing about him, and shutting off contact when you displease him...those are troubling things.
I still have my issues with my H, but I can say that he is different without alcohol, and when it comes back in the picture he goes back to irrational behavior. Now is he even being able to recognize his problem behavior ON HIS OWN and correct it without me saying anything. Sometimes.
Trust your instincts Kassie. This isn't adding up to you because there is something wrong with him.
