M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
Not too busy, John, just not sure what news is fit to print, or worth reading...
1) Dan got back Thursday just in time for conferences. He brought the kids cool presents from Asia, and he brought me a really pretty canister of authentic Green Tea. It comes loose, and you have to strain it out after brewing it.
He has been more smart-a$$/flirty since he has been back. Like he feels more comfortable around me. Maybe because I pretty much act like I couldn't care less when he is around? Not in a mean way, it is just that I treat him more like a casual friend than like a husband or anything. Pretty much whenever he is around he is teasing me about something.
We are meeting this evening to iron out a schedule for November/December. I had told him before he left for Asia that I was going to start going out more and needed a more set schedule so I could make plans. We came up with an agreement for our D settlement but that is based on him having a place for the kids to sleep. So we need to figure out some kind of interim schedule.
I am also going to give him the list of things I need to give the lawyer. (Paystub, 401K statmeent, etc) This has drug on long enough. Friday he said something briefly as he was leaving about how he didn't want a divorce and he had something to say about my starting dating. But I just walked him out the door b/c he was hemming/hawing...
2)I am having fun with Match. The two weirdos are leaving me alone, yay! I have removed 500 profiles so far. Why keep looking at guys I have no interest in?
The cute marathon runner (MG #3) has been emailing sporadically. He asked me out a few days ago and last night asked me what nights I was free this week. He has 3 pictures up, hopefully he actually looks like them! He also has a little boy so hopefully that means he is a little more responsible than the other guys I had talked to. And I had another guy email me yesterday. He looked cute and we have common interests, so we have traded a few emails. Only drawback is, he is a Husker fan.
Otherwise, I am happy, kids are healthy, I have a job, what more could I ask for?
BBJ how long do you generally talk to these guys before agreeing to a date? Just for future reference, I think I may have jumped the gun w/ Mr. Slobbery...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
BBJ how long do you generally talk to these guys before agreeing to a date? Just for future reference, I think I may have jumped the gun w/ Mr. Slobbery...
Lola
The first guy back in August, we e-mailed for about a week. He is still on there, but I haven't contacted bc I feel bad that I just up and bolted (hid my profile and everything) for about 2 months...
The one I went on a horrible date with, we emailed, IM'ed, talked and texted before the date for about 3 weeks. That was actually too long in my opinion. BC it gave us both the feeling that we knew each other more than we did. Wound up flirting via text before the date. Then it was so awkward when we went out and I was not attracted to him at all....
Marathon Guy and I have been emailing sporadically for almost 2 weeks. He asked me out after one week. But I haven't given him my phone # or IMd. We just email.
The guys probably have a better rule of thumb since they have found girlfriends out ot this process...I just know for me, I need to talk to you (email or whatever) long enough to see if we can get along that way (connection), but I want to go out before I start thinking I have a solid picture of who you are when I might be off base...
coffee house ladies...in and out if you so desire in 15 minutes. If things work out you can stretch it to 1/ 2 or even 1 hour in that first meeting. I made similar errors (going for supper on the first date). I remember one time, I was looking for the exit before even getting the menu...not good (by the way that was a blind date setup by my uncle). I always approached it with an open mind...no expectations...that helps as well.
He also has a little boy so hopefully that means he is a little more responsible than the other guys I had talked to. 
