Lol. Yes, he is one of the people I am definitely considering renting to.
One of my girlfriends might be interested to - but only if she can find a job down here (moved back in with parents after she got laid off in the second round of mass layoffs at her company).
I am sure I will find a way to make it all work.
And it will be mine.
It's just nerve-wracking.
My counteroffer was for 163k. It's a 3/1 on .15 acres. Built in 1954, refinished original hardwood floors, recent remodel on the kitchen, new tile, will come with new stove and dishwasher too! Fireplace in the living room. Laundry hook-ups in the garage. The one nice thing about it only having one bathroom is that it has the double sinks in it.
It's so great that housing prices in CA have dropped back down to something reasonable.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
That letter from your XH should be on a WAS sticky somewhere. Amazing. He really is describing depression and PTSD extremely well there. No excuse for his actions, and how he messed up both of your lives.
I'm going out on a limb here, but his board is called DivorceBusting after all. Just some big-picture thoughts. I know the trust thing is tough, can completely understand why you'd never want to be married again. I feel the exact same way. After what happened the first time, how can you be sure RB or anyone else wouldn't do the same thing again? You can't.
My C wrote a little book called "The Shocking Truth About Trust". He defines trust as believing that the way a person treated you in the past will continue into the future.
Crap. Well, I guess I'm screwed then. I guess I want my W to NOT trust me by that definition. How is that ever recovered? How could your Ex ever recover that? I don't know.
As for the paperwork being final, I think it's just paperwork, doesn't really have any bearing on the R. But I don't have a lawyer's mind;) The important thing is that you're financially protected from whatever he might be doing, and honestly I'm envious of that.
I can tell from your posts that you may be questioning things a bit, the "now you're free, go on and have a happy life" isn't all that. He seems to be making some steps, who knows what could happen? Who knows anything in this crazy relationship thing? Is it picking someone who makes a lot of money? Common interests? It's easy for people in our situation to question everything. Surely we did something wrong, picked the wrong person. I don't think that's true for you. I'm getting there for me, but it's hard. I want this all to be my fault because then I can fix it. That's all I've got, hang in there!
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
I was more committed than he was. When I promised him forever, I meant it. And he apparently meant until things hit a rough patch.
What's to say he wouldn't do it a third time? Nothing. And that's exactly why there's no future there. He's not making any effort, never has.
Could that happen with someone else? Sure, but at least they have a clean slate to start with. I can't and won't forget all the As and drama with XH.
Why does the piece of paper matter? Because that was all that was left of the M, all that was holding us together. We were only M on paper after the S. There was a small part of me that kept hoping he would realize that he was throwing something away that had potential, that he would file the one page form to stop the D. But he didn't. So it's over. THe last ties are cut, the last hope is gone.
He's ignoring me again. Which suits me fine, except I still need to get my name off his car lol.
I love how he disappears every time I need anything. It's like he gets a kick out of making me contact him repeatedly.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Maybe R will rent out that spare room. LOL