In shock...

[praying_in_GA]

As an aside, have you talked to a doctor about depression? I don't think I or my situation would be where we are if I hadn't gotten a prescription for anti-anxiety medication.

It's one thing to be bummed out; but if you are suffering from a chemical imbalance, even a short-term one, you literally cannot think clearly.

I have thought about that actually. I am trying to get in touch with my gyn anyway. I wonder if she could write something? I have also thought that maybe this would help with evening out my moods in general. Maybe it would have saved my marriage long ago if I would have addressed it?? Who knows!

Wallowing is not the problem. We all want you to be happy and successful, whether it involves reconciling with your spouse or letting him go to move on to a better relationship.

Thank you all very much. I know you are a supportive group who will tell it like it is when it need to be said. I need to decide where I am at and stick with it. It seems like I am upbeat and happy and ready to work on it.... then he will say something that brings me down again. I NEED to remember that the WA will talk in absolute negatives. I think he is doing this so much more to try and minimize my hopes thinking it will minimize my pain.

We will always be here if you want to talk or vent.

I recommend (re-?)reading MWD's books in the meantime.

And I again offer my own family's experience: my parents were actually divorced for 10 months before they got remarried, and they never heard of Michele Weiner-Davis or DB'ing. So you never can tell what life (or God) has in store for you.

I have them both in my bag for work tonight. I personally like the layout of DR better than DB. I am going to re-read DR tonight.

I still love him. I still want him more than my lungs want oxygen. I don't know what I did to get him to pursue me in the beginning...well, yes I do, I had a boyfriend of 3 years. How can I replay that now?

I still feel that NEED for him along with the WANT. I think I should find a way to do away with the need. I miss my ring SO MUCH. He saw yesterday I wasn't wearing it and didn't say anything about it. The pictures are still down. I don't miss them as much...I actually feel like the clutter is gone.

Oh, and I love that your parents got back together. I have thought of that situation too. I would be happy with any situation that brings our marriage together again.