Puppy - I have been letting my fear rule my decisions 100%. I have been trying so hard to keep things "nice" leading up to the vacation, that I have made many errors. I posted previously that she asked me if I was going to look after her when she's sick after the move out. At first I did things right from a DB perspective, but then relented a bit.
The whole black and white thing affects how well I DB. It may be that I simply take it too far when I try to keep cb principles in mind. It's so tough, when I know that she may view things as me being black and white and that pushes her away. Even yesterday, she actually said that I am "all over the place and can't stick with my decisions". I know....she is telling me that she wants me to be a confident man.
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