Yeah, I didn't really want to reveal who it was, but my gut was telling me to play my ace... It worked. From what she told me, she confessed that if I hadn't found out she planned on taking the secret to the grave.
Not doing anything hasty, but this is the best route I feel. Crazy as it may seem, I still love her. But she hurt me more than she will ever realize, and I have lost a lot of respect for her. IF she ever comes crawling back and that's a big IF, she will have her work cut out for her, because I won't be quick to take her back. The way I see it she would have to jump through flaming hoops carrying a can of gasoline and dynamite strapped to her to prove her love for me and how much I am worth to her if it came down to it. (Don't take it literally just making a statement)
My story: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1867595#Post1867595