I need some expert analysis and possibly a reality check on my sitch.
The other night, W went to another personal interest course which I know she was at because she texted me pictures. However, she came home VERY late so there were a couple of hours that were unaccounted for. I backslid BIGTIME and called her and asked her if she was planning on coming home tonight (I think I was really frustrated because of the seemingly positive turns in the R). She was on the way home at that point and said of course I am. I was really annoyed and let her know how I felt about her being out so late, especially with everything that has gone on over the past few months. She told me that we had talked recently (the A confrontation) and that I don't have to worry about her seeing him anymore and that she felt we were moving in the right direction. She even mentioned the fact that I had brought up MC.
She is continuing to be nice and affectionate with me, still no ILY's though. She bought more home decor this weekend (for those new to my sitch, W was planning on S a month ago)and picked out some new paint colors for some house painting projects she wants us to do over the holidays. We spent the entire afternoon yesterday looking at decor, paints, wallpaper. etc.) There is still no talk of R, no transparency plan, no formal talk of reconciliation, no remorse for A.
I see so much advice on this forum that says the LBS should not bring up R discussions but I really don't know how to proceed on this one. Should I initiate some discussion on the R and get into some actual discussions on planning MC sessions? Should I leave R talk alone for now and just see where this is heading. My W is a conflict avoider and has never been one to want to have the tough discussions during our R. If what I am seeing is progress, baby steps, etc., I don't want to jeopardize this by pushing things too fast. On the other hand, I feel that if we sweep this under the rug, it will probably come back to bite us worse in the future. Of course, there is also the possibility that she is cake eating.
I am still trying to focus on improving myself and am making some good progress. I just feel that I am at a critical point with the R and I appreciate the insight of anyone who is willing to help out.
