How about this to add to the NC letter:

"
...

By leaving, you have caused D to have anger and resentment. She needs time and space to understand her feelings and to heal over our family being torn apart. She needs to understand the life lesson of how destructive an A can be to a marriage and a family.

...
"

?

Last edited by P17; 11/16/09 05:06 PM.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y
Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010

"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient."
"Delay is the antidote for anger"