I never thought I would be here

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Well this weekend was... well eventful. She had left this weekend to go out with friends or so she claimed. She asked if it was okay to hang out with her friends - I told her I had no problem with her going out but you know where my boundaries are. Again had the boundaries discussion, and told her what lines shouldn't be crossed. Well later that night (Saturday) I was on Facebook as I had just opened an account before, and got to chatting with her cousin, which she has been a good friend of mine since high school, and that's how me and my wife met.

We were talking about the whole seperation thing, and later on she said she was having a hard time typing because she was pretty drunk, and said I could call her if I still wanted to talk. I said okay as I was tired of typing myself. We must have talked until 6 in the morning. During the conversation she had let something slip about my wife, and I questioned her about it. She didn't want to cause any trouble, but I told her that I needed to know. She had then told me that my wife had called her telling her about the seperation, and had also admitted to her that she had slept with someone a few weeks back (which this apparently happened before she dropped the bomb on me). She also said that my wife had mentioned that her and her guy "friend" had messed around but didn't have sex and this fell into the week the bomb was dropped.

Needless to say I was focused on checking with other sources before calling my wife out on this. Well after I got off the phone, I remembered a phone conversation I overheard where my wife was speaking to one of her friends and was joking around about bringing her sexy halloween costumes. Knowing what I did, I went straight to our closet to see where it was. lo and behold it was gone! I searched every nook and cranny of the house but didn't find it. Now mind you before my wife left she had told me that she was going to be out late and hanging out with different friends and she was going to crash wherever. The puzzle pieces were in place. I smell bullsh*t!

Well she came home on Sunday after 1 pm and unpacked her backpack. After she was done and she left the room, I decided to check the closet. Funny, the costume magically re-appeared! I was going to wait to confront my wife but when I made the costume discovery - it was on. She was on the back porch smoking, so I went back there, lit one up, sat down, and calmy took a few puffs - then looked at her and calmy asked "So how did the costume work out for you?" She asked me what I was talking about. I asked again - again she threw the same question. I told her that I knew she packed the costume and explained that I couldn't find it before she came back. She gave some excuses, said she didn't wear it blah, blah, random bullsh*t.. I then looked at her and said "You need to cut the sh*t, because I know you haven't been totally honest with me about a lot of things." She told me she has been.

I again told her to cut the sh*t because I knew about what she had done and that I knew about her messing around with her "friend". She asked me where did I get that from, and continued to deny things. I told her someone I trust had told me. She asked who, and I told her it doesn't matter and she needed to come clean. She commented she wanted to know who it was because if someone is behind her back talking sh*t she wanted to know about it. I told her that I am not ratting that person out so she can b*tch them out. I then told her again to come clean, she pressed who said it. I told her it doesn't work that way, asked her why she was being so defensive and told her if nothing happened then it shouldn't be a problem to tell the truth. She pressed, I rebuttled - repeat cycle a few times. She finally said she would tell me everything if I told her who it was. I didn't want to rat this person out, but curiousity was getting the better of me.

Needless to say when I told her who it was and she responded "aw sh*t" with a dropped jaw look and as if she were someone who was caught red-handed. She was then quiet. I told her that this person had no reason to lie, and when her cousin his drunk - the truth comes flowing out. She said she knows, and said it was true. I asked her who it was and when, and found out about someone she worked with. I also found out that it happened a week before she dropped the bomb on me. I was then furious, but the calm, strong furious. I then asked her about her other guy "friend" and she said they had messed around but didn't have sex and this happened within the week of the seperation.

I asked her did she have sex with him - she told me they had sex this Saturday night and they had rented a hotel. I told her "Wow, you really get around! That's 2 different guys in a period of the past 3-4 weeks" She said she was sorry and I told her "I bet you are". I asked more questions, and told her I want everything out in the opened and no stone left unturned. Needless to say I told her just how the rooster crows. I was beyond angry, but this was different because I had self control, and was not yelling and screaming. I think that threw her off too.

Well guess what everyone... She also is seeing that I don't put up with that sh*t, and that I don't play. That's right, she will be moving out. She crossed the line, she pays the consequences. She now knows that I wasn't bluffing. Knowing the truth about what she has done has hurt me, but there is another saying about truth - "The truth shall set you free".