I would agree w/Kat that you may have gone numb, and Wifey is correct to say that time is what will heal things as well as make things clearer for you.
I like your list you gave to H. I hope he'll follow through. I'm not surprised at his not knowing what to do b/c he's lost and scared. He has a ton of guilt and his confidence is very low.
Keep going. You are doing well and will continue to have the haze lift as you move forward.
