My BIL went and had dinner with W last night. I opted out. Apparently they talked about me for about 45 minutes. My BIL said that W didn't say anything negative about me. He said he also felt like he couldn't get anywhere with her when he asked her what it would take to work things out. Apparently she said that she wants to see me be able to make my own decisions and that she wants to be able to trust me. He said the conversation wasn't really positive or negative. It just was.

How am I supposed to be able to build trust with her if she wants nothing to do with me?

I was ready to file and move on. Now I am wondering if I should hold off a little more. My BIL said he doesn't know if she was wearing a mask during the coversation because he knows what she has done and said to me.

I don't know whether there is any reason to hope or not.

Kevin

Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...