Puppy: let my try to explain the gray thing: I have always been the king of person that goes 100% one way - unless I switch to 100% the other way. It's not a great thing in general and has always bothered my wife. She clearlyy tells me now that she wishes I could just not have our relationship defined in any specific way.
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So....are you saying that it would be improper dbing to take her to the party?
As for the first part, I think that's a REAL broad brush. Is "as a monogamous, committed husband-and-wife" too constraining a definition for her?
As for the party, she sounds like she's offering to go out of pity for you. I think your response should be "I'll be fine, but thanks. I'm actually looking forward to it."
