Move over... I 'm moving back......

[sandycay]

So, you assume there is someone else? I've been thinking your reconciliation sounded very similar to the one we tried last year. And since my judgement is affected by my experience I didnt want to insist since you said you've been snooping and lokking for clues and didnt find anything. I will be very surprised if there isnt an OW in your case as well.

Which of course doesnt make anything easier and if you confirm it it makes all the deceit and lies hurt like stubbing. Because we didnt FORCE them to come back and they did only to continue their stupid series of disrespecteful choices.

I dont know what to wish for you. In my case, the knowledge she existed helped me regain my trust to my little voice and self.
K

Hi K,

Yes, I assume there is someone else but if there is or is not it doesn't matter anymore. I am ready to live again and stop giving all my postive energy to a black hole as I have done. Reconcillation was good for aobut 6 months and then it had it';s spurts since last year.... ie. trips and jewelery and sweet nothings.... but it was all him trying to find his way back and he just couldnt' . I mean he tried after all.... calling OW on secret phone last year, struggling with his new Not in love with me feelings.... did he communicate those to me which he touted as so crucial in a relationship.....No! Did he seek counseling ... read a book... NO!

I have grown so much in the last few years going thru this. To bad he is still stuck in his own private hell....

When I said yesterday to him..."I know your lying... you know your lying" His first response was "there's no one else... IDK why you think that"

Now notice, I never mentioned what I know.... he just said that first .... so hyou tell me... didn't hear from him all weekend.... "he was just sitting in his hotel room" Yeah, right!

Whatever.