Is this the end of my marriage?

[P17]

Final NC letter draft. Comments?

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Dear W,

I am writing to you about our current situation.

I will no longer accept your A and continue to keep the truth quiet about the damage it has done to our marriage and our family.

By leaving, you have caused D to have anger and resentment. She needs time and space to understand her feelings and to heal over our family being torn apart.

I have decided that there should only be contact between us for two reasons. To either discuss the reconciliation of our marriage or the potential end of our marriage. The first one I can't discuss while you have invited a third person into our marriage and the second one is best left to solicitors, I think.

I have asked IM to act as an intermediary between us. This will protect D and I from any unnecessary contact. You can either speak or text IM on ....

I have made many changes over the past few months and I'm determined to continue my growth into the best Father and man that I can be.

In the meantime, D and I must move on with our lives without you.

P17

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I feel very emotional today and I thin it's because the day when the NC letter needs to be sent is imminent and it is upsetting me that I will never see W again.

Because of how I feel I really don't want to be making decisions today. Any comments or suggestions on the letter would be appreciated. I didn't want to add 'all my love' at the bottom as I thought that would kind of ruin the whole feeling of the letter.

I did also want to put something in there about the lessons we are teaching D (ie. it's okay to have an A as you can still get your cake and east it too - I want her to know there are consequences to your actions and you need to face up to them). Wasn't sure how quite to word it so I left it out.

Just to follow on from what I said to Sandi2 - if anybody has any other options for me, please let me know what they are! I see none ...