Congrats proud mommy!!! Marc should be proud of himself! (it's the "right" way to tell him according to a great book I was advised to get here-not "I am proud of you" whish shifts the weight of the accomplishment to your feelings and not his or something like that) K
Well, you can tell Marc he should be proud of himself, but you can be proud of him, too! That's totally incredible! You know what else? I think it means Marc is healing from all the crap, too. He could not have focused like that otherwise. Not just yesterday, but through the whole process.
I hope he's getting there. He struggles so much with school and karate and I hate it for him. I know some of his concentration issues are because of the D, but most of them are just him.
Now I just need to get my concentration back to some sort order.
Anyone have a good strategy for combatting loneliness? I can't seem to get it together. It seems so stupid to me! I have friends, I have family, why do I feel so alone then? It really makes no sense. Oh well, it probably never will and I just need to find ways of coping with it. Any ideas anyone?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I'm wondering the same about loneliness. I have friends and family and I'm even the kind of person who is happy doing things alone however sometimes it comes around. My remedies are to stay busy and care for others.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
My house is a wreck and I start to work on one corner and end up moving on to the next before the first is done so nothing every gets finished. I've tried flylady but it just overwhelms me reading it! I actually ended up crying my eyes out just putting clean sheets on my bed tonight because I was so depressed and overwhelmed with everything and for some stupid reasons making up that huge king sized bed that is so empty on one side made me a little crazy. I love my bed, it's so comfy and all the furniture in my room matches for the first time in my life, but in so many ways I'd love to get rid of it and just have a double.
Dumb, dumb, dumb.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I recommend you go to some stores and get some boxes. Put every bit of the mess that can go into the boxes in there and put them in one corner or one room.
Then start cleaning from one starting point and then clockwise through your house. If its too overwhelming, do just one room at a time. Then when you have the rooms clean sort the first box. Then sort the next box. Be sure to have give away and throw away boxes to get rid of anything that you just don't need to keep.
You will feel better with each room and each box.
The best cure for loneliness is to get out there and live your life caring for other people. I volunteer for a program that takes donations of furniture and then matches the furniture with people in need. There is so much need out there. As Mother Theresa said, we can do no great things, only small things with great love.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
I recognize this pattern. I get stressed then overwhelmed then depressed. When it happens I go outside or do something else but I can't stay in the same room trying to do the same thing. Life requires more Me time for the O'dog now.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
I agree with Wifey. Volunteering is wonderful. Getting involved with a good church is good if you're into that.
Re: your house, I'm horrible at just figuring out what to do each day, I tried flylady but it was so confusing and too many emails! I use motivatedmoms chore list now (just google for the web page if you're interested), and it's awesome. You can go to yahoo groups and sign up for their free daily and weekly chore lists to be emailed to you, so it's 2 emails a day they send to you at midnight.
I did that for a while to try out, but now I buy the chore list, it's $8 for the full year, but they have one now (the last 3 months of 2009) for $2 and you could try that out also. They also have sample pages you can look at. Basically there's about 10 daily chores you do each day, then there's 2 or 3 weekly chores you do each day. If you keep doing it after maybe a couple weeks or so it's amazing.
