D17 is in the middle of applying to college. She is a smart kid and seems to have the eating disorder thing in check, thankfully......
I currently give STBX $3500 a month (support for HER and child support)
D17 took my charge card yesterday without me knowing and S11 found it under a pillow on my bed and returned it to me. I was furious at D17, and felt totally betrayed.
I asked her why she took it, and she said to pay for college applications (She has applied to about 15 colleges. WAY too many, and each of them is roughly $60! She's got about a 4.2 average, but I don't believe she'll get into the schools she wants, like Princeton or Dartmouth. She's a student and doesn't do much else. She used to excel in sports and did a whole bunch of community service pre-bulimia, but no mas!)
She asked me to pay for them, after she took the card, but I was so furious, that I couldn't even respond.
She told me STBX would not pay for the applications and told her to "Ask her father".
I hate getting into the adult mechanics of a divorce, but I told D17 that I provided her mother with a substantial amount of money each month for just such a purpose. I feel this another attempt by STBX to "Squeeze me" and make me look bad.
D17 then shoots back that "You can afford to take Gym Woman out to dinner, but you won't pay for my college applications"
I resisted the urge to explode, and then informed her she was in territory she knew nothing about.
Am I way off base to insist that STBX use SOME of the $3500 to pay for applications? I FEEL LIKE I'M BEING BLACKMAILED!
