Latest development…. H came round on the weekend to drop off paperwork and accused me of spreading rumours about him and his gf. Which I can honestly say I haven’t, I have explained to a close friend my feelings on the subject but have not told them anything that isn’t true. Managed to remain calm and just stated that I was being open about my feelings and that I given a balanced account (I’d also told about my EA) so as not to make him appear the bad guy. One of the problems my H had with me was that he felt I wasn’t honest about my feelings and kept them to myself so discussing it with friends would be a 180 for me. I’m leaving it there.
It does seem to me that the more I detach, makes improvements for me and get on with my life the more uncomfortable my H becomes with me, this contradicts advise given on these boards.
