Partner left after 9 yrs - 18months on, reunited !

[AliSuddenly]

Hi kids.. yes, its amazing, he said again this weekend, he KNEW it was wrong with Helen very early on, but he just couldnt admit it to himself or anyone. Its exactly what Jody's theory was. She said, in alot of cases, the WAS has too much pride or shame, or whatever to admit that they had made a mistake. My bf said its becuase he hates to look foolish. Seems a shame he put me and us through all that, just to 'save face'.

So we went home for the weekend to stay with his brother and wife. His brother likes to display their photos on random on their big TV..so I was sat there holding the baby and he throws up on me and I cant move..just as a picture of the four of them (my bf, Helen, his brother and wife) flashes up from the skiing holiday last Christmas - the two couples side by side on their ski's, beaming. I shook all over and felt sick but couldnt get up! Everyone noticed I was upset when they came back into the room, so I had to tell bf, who told them and they were MORTIFIED, as was he. They said to me, we are SO sorry, we thought we had deleted all those pictures and have now deleted that one (which was very nice of them, this isnt their fault!)

It was so horrible, only the second photo I have seen of them as a couple together and they sure looked happy. Bf said, its just a snapshot.. you smile for photos. I said, well I dont. There are photos of me from that time and I can assure you, I am not smiling in them, because I was very unhappy...

Of course, he was VERY reassuring, but he doesnt want to talk about her anymore, he pretty much refuses now, said he finds it frustrating and he loves me, its all over and done now, blah blah...

But we got haircuts on Saturday by an award winning hairdresser friend. We asked her to make his look thicker and it looks amazing and he looked very handsome and we DID have a lovely weekend...