Hey RonD, It's nice to hear your progress too...My birthday dinner was great. My Ex came to my place and we had a glass of wine here before we went. He drove and we were at the restaurant from 8pm - 11. It was so nice having the family altogether! I hadn't seen my 19yr old for weeks, so that was great too! My Ex told the waitress it was my Bday so she brought a very yummy chocolaty sinfully delicious slice of cake...(well what a restaurant considers a slice, we all shared it!) ..Anyway, at the end of the night, my Ex carried our now sleeping son into bed and I walked him to the door, and I told him it was very nice of him (somehow he misunderstood and thought I was talking about how nice our s was?) So I corrected him and said No, I meant what he did for my bday and I initiated a hug. What I got in return was the one-armed, your a buddy type hug.....the same hug our counselor ( in the past) said he should give his sister, so she gets the correct message of distance). This to me is very frustrating. The other thing is that when we were together, he liked my cooking, and I LOVE to cook, especially for people that like it! And at dinner we kind of got on that topic as a group,(my daughter's trying to cook for her bf and isn't doing so well, lol, they were joking about it) and I made reference that he used to like my cooking and I could teach her and I turned to him and said, you liked it right? His reply was "it was ok". Ugh, this type of thing frustrates me. You know, he came to my house he looked really good, did nice things and then at the same time, dismisses little things that he knows are important to me? I don't get it...
