The up and coming holiday periods are going to be very hard on you all while this hangs over you. Often it can crack things wide open. If OW has been truthful with her family then it will be hard on her too, as I don't expect they are liking this much either if they know the full story.
However, it sounds like it is going to be truly awful for your H - he is going to be torn in all directions. From how you describe him, he may well lean on your support hard at those periods. Be prepared.
As an aside, the way your H is acting makes me think that there is something out there still hidden, and my guess it is to do with OW and her family.
OW may be able to be cool, calm, and collected now....she isn't dealing with all the 'needy' stuff at the moment. I bet all she sees is the 'fun' side of your H. There is a lot more of this saga to unfold and I don't think she will be able to remain in such an unflappable position.
When I, and then my D, spoke to OW in my sitch, it was clear that her understanding of how the land lay at my home was way different to how it was, and it shocked her.By telling you that I am not encouraging you to get in contact with her, I just want you to think about the fact that she may be acting, cool calm and collected at the moment because she might not know the whole truth. She may not know your H is possibly wavering in his intentions. My H's OW never suspected my H would choose me over her. She was shocked and stunned when it started to happen.....and then a very different side of her began to appear!!!
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
