WAW wearing wedding band on right hand

[Gnosis]

I copied what you wrote in the detachment thread here:

Its been 3 1/2 weeks since ive seen my WAW. She came to the house last night thinking I wasnt home. I went outside to see what the dogs were barking at and she was in her car. She was just stopping by to drop some things off. I went back inside and all of the emotions inside of me came out. Its been tough. I want to tell her how much I love her and how much I want her to come back, yet I know cannot do this. The funny thing is she has done some things Im not sure I could forgive, yet I want her back. I keep asking myself do I miss the companionship and having someone to come home to, do I really miss her or that? She txted me that she was sorry she came by and she didnt come in because she wanted to respect my request to not see her. I know that detaching does not mean giving up, but its hard to have hope when it feels like she really doesnt care about me anymore, not even as a friend. Im almost through with the "Uncoupling" book, its amazing how people are so self-centered when it comes to breaking long relationships. Its hard reading about people who feel free and has a sense of euphoria when leaving their spouse.

Here's a something that might help you: You need to upgrade your boundary with her.

Request for her to not come anywhere near your house without prior consent. Tell her she is free to "make an appointment" with you beforehand, but out of respect for you, she is not to enter the home uninvited. She moved out and there are consequences to that. If you cannot face her, make sure you have a friend there to let her in.

In some states its against the law to change the locks on the house. Find out about your situation. If you can then do it. Pack all her belongings into boxes and place them in the garage. This way when she comes for them she will not need to enter the house.

I know this may sound cold, but the intention is to protect yourself and your emotions. Her coming by when you're not around is an invasion of privacy. Granted, this can be used to your advantage... @Greek here recommends you "redecorate" the house, I don't feel you're ready for this because you're still too "soft" on her at the moment.

Also, stick to ONE thread, this makes it easier for people to follow you and keep up with you. Right now you're so all over the place that I wasn't sure where to post a reply to you.