Just a quick observation. Your reply to her text (which seemed civil enough) just oozed anger. Just in that one little sentence. My mother would have called it "snippy". Nyah-nyah-nyah. Like a little kid.
IF all is not well in her little paradise and IF she may be showing some interest in you and what you are doing and who you may or may not be seeing, are you someone she would feel safe coming back to?
Me: 50; Wife: 48 Gay; civil union in NJ no kids M: 15 years, together 17 Bomb (OW) 2/09 (EA 3mos/PA 3mos) ILYBINILWY W out of house, w/OW, in separation talks, nothing filed