So I had the date from hell last night. Lord I hate this, I hate being out there again.
I signed up for one of those dating services (which I am regretting) and met who I thought was a nice guy. Instead, as soon as dinner was finished, he was asking me to go back to his place. Ummm.... HELL NO!!! I said I would like to get to know you a little better before we do that, and he said well we can get to know each other better at my place!!!
Needless to say, I ended the date pretty quickly.
I don't think I am ready for this. I know I am not supposed to listen to the RL friends because they don't get it, but is it okay for me to not be ready to date? I mean, it has been over two years, but my heart is not in the whole dating thing.
I am terrified that I will never be ready, and that I will be alone forever. And yet I would rather be alone forever than end up with a total creep.
Am I normal for not being ready yet? Or do I need a lobotomy?
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
You are normal, hon, especially with the date from h*ll happening. How about you just make some good friends and not even try dating for a while. Take the pressure off yourself.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
You are all right, I am not ready. I am trying to push myself out there, and the fact is, I am much happier staying home w/ D13 right now. I enjoy being in on the weekends, and just hanging around, or getting up to go to my friends if I want, going to see my uncles band. Another dating experience is just not in the works right now.
But I still like the lobotomy idea...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
You will be ready, when you are ready. I got on a service, talked with a guy for a few weeks, he asked me out, I was excited, then I realized I was terrified and not ready.
Waited a few months, and now I know I want to go out. But I reserve the right to change my mind (again!).
Just do what you want and don't worry about your friends. (Now I sound like your mom...)
Kal...I think the date just deserved to be shot. Since when did it become acceptable to try to stick your tongue down someone's throat on a first date? Yuk!!!
And the fact is, I am not ready. I have tried to get out there a little bit, and it does not feel right. So I think I will just chill by myself for a while. I like that idea better...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
How many times does karma have to slap the shiznit out of someone before they get it? Now stbx is facing losing his job...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
