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[faithisbelieving]

I agree with all the wonderful posts above.

As a man, I would not be doing what I am doing right now to defend and protect myself in a court. I spoke with Ian and I told him...how alien this is to me as a man. But, as Lincoln said in Star Trek, "the war is now thrust upon us."

Today, my son asked me to tie his sneakers. He just got out of a splint from a foot ankle strain. He sits on the stairs in our house and I get in front of him to help get them on. He is 9.

My STBXW comes down the stairs:
"He is old enough to tie his own sneakers."

A few moments later, she comes up the stairs:
"He's 9 years old. He can tie his OWN sneakers."

A few moments later, she goes downstairs again:
"This is enabling him...enabling behavior."

My son, for the first time, looked at me with a 'what the f' is that' look.

I had two choices:
1) confront her, tell her that she should NOT talk this way in front of the kids, cause a scene, and, as you all know, have her elevate it out of control

or, away from STBXW,

2) Put my hand on my son's face, look him in the eyes and say, "S9, it's OK for your dad to help you put your sneakers on. It's OK.you know that" And give him a hug and a pat on the back

I chose the latter.

My son is on this earth only 9 years. I hardly think that tying his sneakers once is enabling. Does anyone recall the scene in Miracle on 34th St, with Kris Kringl and Alfred (Kerry K, youtube? LOLOL).

This has got to end. It's just horrible when she does this.

FIB