I got a quick catch-up on your situation, and you look like you are getting very good advice:

Originally Posted By: breakaway
Bunny, if he doesn't know the background, then you are getting general advice for a "normal" situation. You are NOT IN a normal situation. You are with an abuser. Your attorney has to be informed about this. Your H is not going to suddenly stop manipulating after you leave the house.


Indeed. You are in an emotionally (and very likely physically) abusive relationship. Your lawyer needs to know this.

Any discussion of child support, divorce, etc. should be done ONLY through your lawyers. Do not give him a chance to manipulate you.

And I echo the calls for some kind of physical support network -- someone who can call or drop by on a regular basis. You are being very brave by walking away, but you are also putting yourself in danger; abusers and manipulators don't like it when their victims try to leave.

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."