Norseman.
Sorry/welcome. Look at second thread on this Newcomers list"abbreviations" for definitions. Get DR Book. Vent, journal, here. Try out thoughts, actions here for advice before executing. Read everything by PuppyDogTails, Gucci Loafer, Robx, and others who advise, among other things saying,"I will not share my wife with another man, etc."
You are at the right place. Telecoaching is great.

Also read "Quotes Found on Divorce Busting (II) at top of thread list. Look up Coach, Greek, Sandi2 as well and read their cogent, invaluable adviuce. Antlers, too.
Me, I'm more of a Rah, Rah, Go do it kinda guy. My advice far less effective than thos I've listed above. And that list is only a paertial one. Read as many posts as you can. You will find many similaar to yours that will resonate.
Good luck and prayers.
Talk to you soon.

Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac