Welcome. I am sorry that you are here. But you have come to a good place to find support, advice, and others who have been or are currently in similar sitchs.
I don't have any advice for you, but many others on this forum with chime in.
Me & H: 33 yrs S: 4 & 6 D: 2 M: 9 yrs ILYBNILWY: 8/09 SEPARATED: 9/09 The Beginning