You have gotten great advice. While I am not a D attorney, I am an attorney (trial lawyer). I echo that you should have your L dealing with the numbers, alimony, etc. That's why you are paying your L. And, please, please, please tell your L EVERYTHING - good and bad. His/her opinion is only as good as the information upon which it is based.
If there are any bad things on your part (not saying there are), then tell your L. There's an old saying that I don't mind getting hit by the train, as long as I know its coming. Your L needs to know everything.
And, have your escape plan already set up BEFORE you tell him you've had enough. It WON'T get easier after that point. Plan ahead. That's not devious, its being prudent.
If you're done, then ok. But make sure your decision is based on reasoned judgment, NOT EMOTION. The anger/hurt that generates that decision will go away. That's why we don't base a decision on our feelings. Just think it through.
