I am so sorry to hear about your recent turn of events. It does seem like pretty much all of the MLCers really need to be cut loose to come to terms with everything and finally face their issues. It has put me on edge waiting for the other shoe to drop here . . .
You are doing a great job being a wonderful mom to your babies even though I know right now as you say you are distracted. YOU get to be the one they know as the dependable one, the strong one, and the one who showed them love. At least we have that, right? And you will be the one to demonstrate how to get through hardship with dignity and grace.