I'm a big fan of some wallowing, personally. You have been shocked and hurt to your core; those emotions are perfectly valid and have to go *somewhere*. Allow yourself time each day to experience your pain (when/where it won't impact on your children) for as long as you need. Don't forget to pour your heart out to God and remember His love. Then you'll be in a good place to GAL and love your kids.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
