I rarely post to newcomers because I am a veteran of this site (3 years) and sometimes my "tainted" views are not what the doctor ordered for newcomers. You have been at this for a year and your H is in another city so I don't have to walk on eggshells. I have not read all your sitch (just the last post). I can not tell you how to act or what to say during your upcoming meeting. Nobody can....I have been there (most of us have). The sad truth is that you are correct, TIMING has alot to do with it. There are certain times when there is absolutelly nothing you can do to penetrate the WAS. They are in their own little world. This may be your H's case. There may still be hope for your marriage...know and accept that the percentages are low....but like the rest of us you think you you are going to be part of the success stories. I hope you are. I guess what I am saying is this is a very long process, you absolutelly need to protect yourself (financially and emotionally). I wish you luck... but above all i wish you have the strength to find happiness with or without your H in your life.
