So the party was okay. I had a good time. H showed up at the beginning. I was in a good mood having a good time. It was all good until my S3 wasn't being very friendly to him at all. Which is unusual as he is a daddy's boy. H asked me what was up and I told him that S3 is having a hard time lately. He woke up last night crying asking me why daddy doesn't want to come home and be a family with us anymore. Its heartbreaking. It broke my heart and I as much as we think our 3 yr old doesn't know what is going on, he does. So I told H what he said and he replied " Well he's only 3, he doesn't get it. It is what it is, so next time tell him Daddy doesn't live here anymore and that's it" Since when did my H turn into the most cold, insensitive person in world? Especially when it comes to his own little boy? Ugh, I really didn't know what to say so I ignored it and wandered off to my other S1. I tried to keep my distance from him, but he kept coming to sit by me. It was like he wanted to show his family that we are still "civil" and still "get along" and that he isn't the bad guy. He was only there for maybe 20 min. as he is a police officer and got called out to a call.
About an hour later he called the house to apologize for running out, talked to his brother. Fine, doesn't matter to me. Of course BIL comes on over to me to relay the message. I am leaving and check my cell, and there's a call from him. I ignore it.
I get home from the party and he calls the house, he calls the cell. I ignore it. We have a good afternoon playing, and I turn the lights off upstairs and play down with the boys. The thing is I live in a very small city. I live 5 minutes from his place of work, and 10 min. from his sisters, so when he wants to see if I'm home all he has to do is drive by. Well about 2 hours later, there is a call on my cell from him again! I ignore it. This time he doesn't call the house. Obviously cause he drove by and saw the lights were off. He's been known to drive by since he left. Needs to know my business, but doesn't want to be a part of it. Make sense? Not really. Oh well, he hasn't called since. But I am at the point where I have the boys for 3 more days, so he obviously doesn't need to make plans about the children so why do I need to talk to him? I don't. I will never heal and get over this if I have contact every single day. I'm not going to be his sounding board if he's having a bad day at work. Its a package deal. If he needs me for some reason, then he needs to come home in order to have any part of me. Period.
Nicely done, Britt.
btw, the next time he says something like he did about S3 (which I agree, was horrible!), try this one, which was one of my faves:
Shake your head, stare at him incredulously, and just say -- very clearly -- "Unbelievable."
