Can I save my marriage?

[motherof3]

Sounds like you functioned well at the party. Kudos to you. However, you must be exhausted from all that. Be sure to try and get some sleep tonight.

I think your H's response to the S3 sitch at the party stemmed from the fact that he doesn't want to see how his choice as a WAS affects not only you but others as well. He probably just blurted out the first thing that came to mind.