I posted in the newcomers but needed advice

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I'm getting really sick of hearing that the children are too young to be hurt, and they will get through it. Yes they will get through it, but it doesn't mean they won't be hurt. Maybe not now, but they will one day. My H seems to think my 3 year old doesn't understand, but last night S3 wakes up in the middle of the night crying to me asking why daddy doesn't want to be a family anymore. I tell H and he says, "He's only 3, he doesn't get it" Really? Did you just hear what he said last night? Insensitive. Its quite sad how they can go from good fathers and caring to inconsiderate jerks. Even if they don't care about our feelings right now, what about this kids? I can relate when you say you don't have that bad of a marriage. I feel the same way. I have many friends that have been through divorce or not even and have way worse marriages than me. That's what makes it harder to accept for us. But we have to realize that we are not them. Maybe it wasn't THAT BAD for us, but maybe it was for them. It obviously had to have been or we wouldn't be in this position right now. Once we start looking at the sitch through our H's glasses we will never understand and never get through this. You obviously haven't detached either as his moods control you and I feel the same way and am working on this right now. I am told by the big wigs on here that once we detach this won't happen. I only count the days until I'm in there. Question, has he ever brought up staying somewhere else? I couldn't imagine trying to detach while living with them?