I just finished reading you thread and I would say I put your H at about the same age as mine - 16 on a good day.
I won't add to your sitch since I see you have my favorite mentor here already guiding you -
Can't go wrong with Puppy and I would recommend you listen to him -
Think of him as Yoda.
I am so sorry about your second bomb being so recent however I agree, once you "know" instead of suspect, it does in a sadistic, twisted way feel better -
At least then you know you aren't crazy.
Thank you for visiting my thread tonight with your kind words -
I wish you a wonderful, peaceful slumber tonight.
I leave you with this:
Romans 5:3-5 More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~